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PREFACE
CHAPTER-1-2
CHAPTER-3
CHAPTER-4-5-6-7
CHAPTER-8-9
CHAPTER-10-11
CHAPTER-12-13-14-15
CHAPTER-16-17
CHAPTER-18-19
CHAPTER-20-21-22
CHAPTER-23-24-25
CHAPTER-26-27-28
CHAPTER-29-30
CHAPTER-31.1
CHAPTER-31.2
CHAPTER-31.3
CHAPTER-32
CHAPTER-33
CHAPTER-34-35-36-37-38
CHAPTER-39-40-41-42
CHAPTER-43-44-45
CHAPTER-46-47
CHAPTER-48
CHAPTER-49-50
CHAPTER-51
CHAPTER-52-53
The Sex Life of the Gods. Michael Knerr. CHAPTER-1-2
CHAPTER-3
CHAPTER-4
CHAPTER-5-6
CHAPTER-7-8
CHAPTER-9-10
CHAPTER-11-12
CHAPTER-13-14
CHAPTER-15-16
CHAPTER-17-18

learned of many of the reasons, which in many families led first to a 

coolness, then to an estrangement, or to quarrels, to separation and 

divorce. I know the first steps which in many instances draw the 

husband to another woman. And I wish to tell you, that while I firmly 

believe in the polygamous or rather varietist tendencies of the 

average man, nevertheless I am convinced that one of the great reasons 

why so many married men patronize prostitutes, or have mistresses or 

lady friends, is to be found in the wives themselves. Many wives 

_drive_ their husbands to other women, and are alone responsible for 

their suffering, for the cooling of their husbands' affections, and 

perhaps even desertion. And in the following pages I will endeavor, as 

stated before, to point out some of the rocks and shoals on which the 

matrimonial bark is so often shattered, and to offer the wives some 

suggestions which will help them to retain their husbands' affections 

and perhaps even also their fidelity. 

 

While the advice is intended primarily for wives, there will be found 

here and there a salutary piece of advice for husbands. Some of the 

advice is applicable to both partners, and as to those suggestions 

which concern the husband only--it will be a good thing for the wives 

to call their husbands' attention to them. 

 

The first few weeks or the first few months are the most important in 

the life of a married couple. The stability of the marriage, the 

future happiness, often depend upon the things which are done or left 

undone during the initial weeks of married life. A certain 

understanding must be reached from the very beginning. If your husband 

does certain things which displease you and which you know should not 

be done, it is best to say so at the very start. It is easier to 

prevent the establishment of a habit than to break a habit after it 

has been established. 

 

=Retain Your Individuality.= The first piece of advice I have to give 

you is: _Retain your individuality_. It is a trite but perfectly true 

observation that altogether too many men who during courtship were 

chivalry personified assume a dictatorial tone as soon as the knot has 

been tied. They think that the wife has actually ceased to exist as a 

separate human being, that she has been absorbed, and with the loss of 

her name she has lost all right to have her own opinions, her own 

tastes, and, of course, her own friends. Friends who are obnoxious to 

one of the marital partners one must give up sometimes; but do not 

permit your entire personality to be obscured. Explain to your husband 

that you are still an independent living human being. I do not say, 

you should at once start a fight. Nothing is more offensive to me than 

the militant, pugnacious woman, who wears a chip on the shoulder and 


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