Main  Contacts  
Table of contents
PREFACE
CHAPTER-1-2
CHAPTER-3
CHAPTER-4-5-6-7
CHAPTER-8-9
CHAPTER-10-11
CHAPTER-12-13-14-15
CHAPTER-16-17
CHAPTER-18-19
CHAPTER-20-21-22
CHAPTER-23-24-25
CHAPTER-26-27-28
CHAPTER-29-30
CHAPTER-31.1
CHAPTER-31.2
CHAPTER-31.3
CHAPTER-32
CHAPTER-33
CHAPTER-34-35-36-37-38
CHAPTER-39-40-41-42
CHAPTER-43-44-45
CHAPTER-46-47
CHAPTER-48
CHAPTER-49-50
CHAPTER-51
CHAPTER-52-53
The Sex Life of the Gods. Michael Knerr. CHAPTER-1-2
CHAPTER-3
CHAPTER-4
CHAPTER-5-6
CHAPTER-7-8
CHAPTER-9-10
CHAPTER-11-12
CHAPTER-13-14
CHAPTER-15-16
CHAPTER-17-18

unflinchingly, because it is probably responsible for more male 

infidelity than all other causes combined. I speak of the relation of 

the wife to her marital duties, in other words, to sexual relations. 

Too many women regard the sexual act as a nuisance, as an ordeal, as 

something disagreeable to get through with as quickly as possible; 

they regard the husband's demands in this line as an imposition, as 

unfair or even as brutal; and their behavior preliminary to and during 

the act is such as to cool the ardor of any refined and sensitive man. 

The reasons for this behavior on the part of many wives are manifold; 

this is not the place to consider them in detail. I will allude to 

them briefly. One great cause is congenital frigidity. The woman is 

cold, frigid, has no desire for sex relations and experiences no 

pleasure, no sensation from them. Such women are not to blame; they 

are to be pitied. But even they can behave so as not to repel their 

husbands. (See Chapter XLIII). 

 

Another great cause is the vicious, prudish bringing up, by which the 

sex act is regarded as something unclean, indecent, animal-like, 

brutal. Such Women need a good "talking-to," and if they are only not 

natural born fools, one good explanation often fixes matters. On a par 

with this general prudishness is the infamous idea promulgated by a 

few semi-insane, mentally decrepit men and women, that sexual 

intercourse is for the purpose of propagation only. That only when a 

child is wanted is the relation permissible; at all other times it is 

a sin, an "act of prostitution," an offense in the eyes of God, etc., 

etc. Of course if the wife has such ideas the husband deserves little 

sympathy. A man should know what ideas the woman entertains whom he is 

going to make his wife and the mother of his children. But, 

unfortunately, this, the most important subject of sex and sexuality, 

is never touched upon by the engaged couple (it would be so 

indelicate!), and after they are married they often find themselves at 

opposite poles. Here also a good heart-to-heart talk will do a world 

of good. I have had several such cases where a little conversation or 

even a letter saved the couple from disruption. 

 

In many cases the cause of refusal is fear of pregnancy. In this case 

the wife is right. But the remedy is simple: give her full instruction 

in the use of contraceptive measures. Other causes are: excessive 

masturbation, vaginismus, local malformation, inflammation, etc. But 

whatever the causes of the wife's "bad behavior" may be, they are all 

amenable to treatment. Some need medical treatment, some psychic 

treatment, and some nothing but just a common-sense, heart-to-heart 

talk. 

 

And I would emphasize: Do not repel your husbands when they ask for 

sexual favors--at least do not repel them too often. Households in 


Page 4 from 10:  Back   1   2   3  [4]  5   6   7   8   9   10   Forward