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CHAPTER FORTY-NINE 

 

A RATIONAL DIVORCE SYSTEM 

 

A Rational Divorce System--Storms and Squalls--Two Sides of the 

Divorce Question--Outside Help and Marital Tangles--A Husband who 

was a Paragon of Virtue--The Case of the Sweet Wife--The Proper 

Untangling of Domestic Tangles. 

 

 

Of course, I am in favor of a rational divorce system. The 

difficulties, the obstacles, the expense, with which divorce is now 

surrounded in most civilized countries is simply disgraceful. Make 

marriage harder and divorce easier, has always been my motto. When 

life together becomes unbearable then it is better for both husband 

and wife to cut the tie and to get divorced. Divorce is preferable to 

separation, because both spouses may be able to lead a new and happier 

life. Where there are no children to be taken care of a simple 

declaration of husband and wife repeated perhaps after a lapse of 

three or six months should be quite sufficient for the granting of a 

divorce. Where there are children the state should make sure that they 

will be properly taken care of before a divorce is granted. Where only 

one party demands a divorce the case should be carefully studied by a 

commission which should include in its personnel physicians and 

psychologists; and adultery should most certainly not be the only 

cause for divorce. 

 

Yes, I am for a sensible, rational and easy system of divorce. But I 

would always recommend care and caution. "Go slow" should be the 

guiding motto of husband and wife in such cases. There are periods in 

a married couple's life when further living together seems 

unthinkable; and still a month or two or a year passes and the husband 

and wife live happily together and cannot believe that there was ever 

any friction between them. The couples are very few, indeed, who never 

went through any squalls or storms, whose lives were not darkened by 

disagreements, quarrels and apparently irreconcilable antagonisms. But 

after the storm the sun shone brightly again, and the quarrels were 

followed by harmony and peace. After that love was intensified. Were 

divorce a simple matter, a mere matter of declaration, many couples 

who live now in harmony would have been divorced--to their great 

regret perhaps. 

 

Yes, there are two sides to the divorce question. But I would 

summarize it as follows: Where there is a real incompatibility of 

characters, where there is no love and no respect, then the sooner the 

couple is divorced the better, and not only for them but for the 

children also, if there are any. An atmosphere of hatred and mutual 

contempt is not a healthy atmosphere for the growing children. But 

where there is merely irritability, outbreaks of temper, or 

disagreements which if analyzed can be seen to be due to temporary and 

remediable causes, then "Go slow," "Don't hurry," should be your 


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