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CHAPTER-1-2
CHAPTER-3
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CHAPTER-8-9
CHAPTER-10-11
CHAPTER-12-13-14-15
CHAPTER-16-17
CHAPTER-18-19
CHAPTER-20-21-22
CHAPTER-23-24-25
CHAPTER-26-27-28
CHAPTER-29-30
CHAPTER-31.1
CHAPTER-31.2
CHAPTER-31.3
CHAPTER-32
CHAPTER-33
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CHAPTER-39-40-41-42
CHAPTER-43-44-45
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CHAPTER-48
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CHAPTER-51
CHAPTER-52-53
The Sex Life of the Gods. Michael Knerr. CHAPTER-1-2
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CHAPTER-9-10
CHAPTER-11-12
CHAPTER-13-14
CHAPTER-15-16
CHAPTER-17-18

this opinion consider love and sexual attraction--or lust as they like 

to call the latter--as antithetical conceptions, as mutually 

antagonistic and exclusive. 

 

Both opinions, as is often the case with extreme and one-sided 

opinions, are wrong. Both opinions have a reason for their existence, 

because there is a grain of truth in both of them. But a grain of 

truth is not the whole truth, and if an opinion contains ninety-nine 

parts of untruth to one part of truth, then the effect of the opinion 

is practically the same as if it were all false. 

 

Here is the truth, or at least what I think is the truth, as it 

appears to me after many years of thinking and many years of 

observing. 

 

=Foundation of Love.= The _foundation_, the _basis_ of all love is 

sexual attraction. Without sexual attraction, in greater or lesser 

degree, there can be no love. Where the former is entirely lacking the 

latter can have no existence. This you may take as an axiom. Some may 

call it love, but on analyzing it you will find that it is no such 

thing. It may be friendship, it may be gratitude, it may be respect, 

it may be pity, it may be habit, it may even be a _desire_ or a 

_readiness_ to love or to be loved, but it is not love. Experience has 

proved it in thousands and thousands of sad cases. And the girl who 

marries a man who is physically repulsive to her, who possesses _no_ 

physical sexual attraction for her, though she may experience for him 

all of the feelings mentioned above, namely, friendship, gratitude, 

respect and pity, is preparing for herself a joyless couch to sleep 

on. Unless, indeed, she happens to belong to the class of women whom 

we call frigid, that is, if she is herself devoid of any sexual desire 

and feels no need of any sexual relations. Such a woman may be fairly 

or even quite happy with a husband who repels her physically, but whom 

she likes or respects. And what I said about the wife applies with 

still greater force to the husband. A man who marries a woman who is 

physically antipathetic to him is a criminal fool. 

 

I repeat, sexual, physical attraction is the _basis_, the foundation 

of love. It is true we see certain cases of love which puzzle us. We 

cannot understand what "he" has seen in "her" or what "she" has seen 

in "him." But let us remember this paradox, which paradoxical though 

it be, is true nevertheless: Love is blind, but Love also sees acutely 

and penetratingly; it sees things which we who are indifferent cannot 

see. The blindness of Love helps her not to see certain defects which 

are clearly seen to everybody else; but, on the other hand, her 

penetrating vision helps her to see good qualities which are invisible 

to others. And a homely person may possess certain compensating 

_physical_ qualities--such as passionate ardor or strong sexual 


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